How do you spell trust without an “us” in a Relationship?
In today’s world, relationships tend to be a lot more complicated than they were for older generations. We have so many more ways of getting ourselves in trouble with a world gone viral and social media taking over.
Celebrities such as Justin Bieber and Chris Brown know this all too well.
Instead of basic conversation and interactions being done in person, we now do it all through text, facebook and even twitter.
With twitter you have to cut your break up or argument into 140 characters or less, which could be bitter-sweet. In pre-digital times estranged couples might return their wedding rings; these days they unfollow one another on Twitter.
That’s what Katy Perry did in January, telling her fans that “you guys have made my heart happy again” and warning that “NO ONE speaks for me. Not a blog, magazine, ‘close sources’ or my family.”
We have all been through at least three types of break ups; 1) being the nasty type of break up, 2) the “eh we were only dating” break up, and 3) the “omg did he/she really do that to me, how, why” break up.
All three share one common denominator, which is a justification as to why and how it went wrong. Why do we dwell so much on the unknown and things we can’t control? We are in full control of what our future relationships will bring, due to our experiences from the past failed ones.
Albert Einstein once defined insanity as, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” As human beings, don’t we all tend to have some insanity in our daily lives?
Everybody has issues, whether it’s public or private, we can all relate on some level. The catch to this is, once your trust in either yourself or others is tarnished, don’t let that dictate the rest of your life. Face that fear of hurt and betrayal, stare it in the eyes and leap over that cliff, regardless of how steep or hard the fall.
After much contemplation, I’ve come to the conclusion that this is why I don’t personally enjoy relationships. As I reflect on my past, I realize that it’s the fear of being hurt and disappointing others that keeps my heart constantly jailed in my own prison. We all have the tools to a happy and successful relationship, but maybe we tend to not place all the tools as neat as we had planned in our personal toolboxes.
Trust is key in any relationship. Without trust there is no us.
That stands true for all types of relationships. Whether you don’t trust others, yet you trust yourself. OR, you trust yourself and not others, is a catch 22. Both have to be understood in order to be happy and have longevity in a relationship. The sooner we let go of fear, and things in the past that have hurt us, the sooner we open the door to the relationship each and every one of us deserve.
Everybody wants a happy ending. I’m not saying you won’t be stressed throughout life, come on now, if stress burned calories, I would be a supermodel by now. I’m just saying take risks. If you win you will be happy, if you lose you will be wise and carry on with more wisdom.
At the end of the day people will hate you, rate you, shake you, and break you. But how strong you stand is what makes you. Realize there is a purpose for every person you meet. Some are there to test you, some will use you, some will teach you, and some will bring out the worst in you. Others bring out the best. At the end of your life you will thank them both, the ones who hurt you and the ones who didn’t.
Don’t merely exist in life, live it, and love it, let your existence be known!
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