Season 3 of The Real L Word kicked off its season with a bi-coastal cast. The NY girls are naturally much bolder than the LA girls…

Eh, who cares about all of that? We’ll get to the new girls, after we discuss the couple who have carried this entire show on their backs, season after season.

The BIG DAY, Sara Bettencourt and Whitney Mixter’s wedding!

Throughout their journey, they have warmed viewers hearts with their raw and genuine love for one another and the day has finally come for them to say, “I do.”

It was interesting to see their family’s responses. Honestly? I am not one to shed tears, but when it came to Sara’s mother and her lack of support in previous episodes, I was literally balling. Cue my gay roommate walking in at that exact moment and asking me, “Why are you crying?!”

I understand that it’s every mother’s dream to watch their daughter walk down the aisle, but why does it have to be the conventional fairy tale? It’s 2012 – Love is love and it shouldn’t matter if the one you love is a girl, boy, blue, black or yellow. What matters is the connection and the meeting of their hearts. Although, I do understand that older generations view “gay marriage” differently.

I’ll never forget, I was around 22 years-old when my mom looked at me and asked, “are you a lesbian?” Before I had a chance to respond she continued, “It’s fine if you are – I’ll always love you – I’m just letting you know, it’s a much harder life.” I simply answered, “I don’t place love or lust on gender.” Period.

On the finale when Sara and Whitney’s mothers met, Sara’s mom was still not fully around the corner with the idea of her daughter marrying a woman. While Whitney’s mom was more, “I knew when she was three years-old, she would be different.” For Sara’s mother, it wasn’t anything against Whitney. It was more the thought of an unconventional life, one that she never imagined for her daughter and one that she couldn’t quite grasp. Still, she showed up at the wedding crying (You got to love this woman).

The most important thing her mother should see? Her daughter is extremely happy, in love and with an amazing, kind-hearted partner/now wife. She has met her soul mate. WHO CARES if it happens to be with a woman. What matters in life is being happy. Should she marry a man and do the conventional wedding, dreading every kiss on her lips so others can be happy? NO. She should live her life for her, which she’s doing and something I respect.

The Wedding was gorgeous! The ambiance, food, décor — even the couple looked better than Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi. Oh, did I mention I was there? How could I not pop my lesbian wedding cherry? I will say, it was much more emotional than a conventional wedding. Lots and lots of estrogen was flowing that day.

The fashion was somewhat conventional. The other ladies from The Real L Word cast, besides Cori and Kacy — Lauren, Kyomi/her group people, and Amanda all showed up wearing all black for some reason. I remember thinking, “why are they all dressed like they are going to a funeral?” They looked good, but it was summer and mid June, I say break-out those pastels!

I don’t remember exactly what everyone else was wearing, but Amanda was rocking some hot Louboutin heels. I must say, I have never seen anyone walk in them so well, and for so long!

Lauren had on some sick jewelry, which she makes herself. Her line is like Judith Ripka meets edgy, very nice. You can check it out on Lyonfinejewelry.com. You can custom design what you want, carat weight, gemstone, shape.

Everything considered, besides having two brides, the wedding was conventional. Oh, except for the reality show cameras, but that’s becoming more and more of a common thing nowadays.

So the underlying question is — should one choose the conventional way or the unconventional? That’s not an option the majority of the time. You either follow your heart and say ‘F what others think and feel’, or you don’t.

It’s like what the great Dr. Seuss says, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

Everyone at Allie is Wired joins me in congratulating the happy couple — may you have many, many happy years together.

If you don’t have Showtime you can catch the season finale HERE!

images: Linda Jordan Photography